Monday, April 1, 2013

Sundays, Sofas and Television

(A day late but whatevs, that's how I roll)

Sunday is my very favorite day of the week
'cause it's my fun day
or so someone very colorful once said.

But honestly, Sundays really are the best. Most people I know seem to live for Friday, which I never really understand--Fridays are still workdays. And Saturdays are always busy with going out in public, shopping, talking to people, generally being a part of humanity. Sundays are my day to relax, think, vegetate, and regroup for the coming week.

I'm really glad my sofa is so comfortable and nothing is as good for napping as any show on PBS. (I really do like PBS, but the timbre of narration always lulls me into a good doze.)

This Sunday, I spent most of the day relaxing, catching up on television I'd missed during the week and knitting. I have swatches for two different scarf projects on the needles. I'm very grateful for friends that encourage creativity and allow me to toss out ideas and theories (and "borrow" ideas so blatantly). I try to live my life thinking that if everyone were just a little more encouraging of others--their gifts, talents, abilities--so much more would be created and shared and there would be more Good.

Unfortunately, I feel like I get drowned out by the negative people. For some reason, negative people are so noisy. Noise from outside sources can be ignored; we can become accustomed to it and tune it out. Negative people turned into white noise. There is danger in allowing the noisy negative person be the person you look at in the mirror.
Admission: I want to be a successful knitting designer. But am I good enough? I see/read about plenty of other people that seem to lead charmed lives and almost fall into exactly what I wish I had. How does that happen for them and not me? They must have some formula or secret ingredient I don't.
Well, it turns out that might be exactly right; I am missing an important ingredient.

Recently, I've come across two items that have made me start thinking about success and how to achieve it. First, a blog post I read while looking at things related to my day job. It's an article about developing talent and references an interview given by Dave Grohl (apparently some kind of famous singer, but I'm not music-cool and only recognize him from recent appearances on Chelsea Lately) about being a successful band. It has a lot of asterisked-out swear words, so read at your own risk.

Basically, you've got to do a lot of really ugly, crappy, unattractive things before you get enough experience to make really awesome, pretty, creative and desirable things.

Secondly, two TED talks by researcher Brené Brown about vulnerability. My favorite quote is:
"Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation and change."
I'll probably listen to the two TED talks several more times and see what else I can take into myself as I go on in this adventure. If I don't try, if I don't put myself out there for rejection, nothing bad can happen. No criticism or failure. But also nothing good

Straight from my corporate world: what barriers are there to success? I'm still thinking about that question. When I know, I think I'll try vulnerability, admit I don't know how to do something, and find the person that can help.

What do you think about vulnerability? What kind of environment allows you to be vulnerable? This is a safe place--let it rip.